圣诞月实用指南：让孤单的你开心过年

兔斯基

进入12月，基本算是开启了新年倒计时，世界各地的歪果仁齐刷刷开挂在圣诞月狂奔，比如此时跑马拉松装备都是这样的。

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上课的校服是这样的

逛超市需要穿上传统节日服装

网红自拍气质也变成了这样

辣么，有集体的狂欢就有一个人滴孤单，12月也是很多单身汪连续躺枪的最后一个月啦，大家坚持一下，新年来了春节还会远吗？想想回家吃着年夜饭，一家人其乐融融，三姑六婆帮你共谋终身~~嗯，画面感人……

今天找来几个帮大家享受孤单的小方法，厌倦了新年喧闹的同学也欢迎加入。一个人的自在清凉也只有这些时候才能体会。

Read comforting books that take your mindto other places

看一本治愈系的书

Sometimes when things get tough, it’s greatto pick up a book and escape to another world for a little.

看书是通过别人的语言逃遁到另一个世界的最好方法。

Visit online forums where you can talkanonymously to people who can relate to what you’re going through.

在网上找人聊聊

Just knowing there are other people outthere with the same struggles can be comforting. Some examples are IMAlive,Healthful Chat, and Trevor Space.

如果心情抑郁，可以试着去网上的论坛找人聊聊。IMAlive, Healthful Chat, Trevor Space，这三个大家可以翻墙试试，顺便练阅读写作和口语哈。

Watch movies that will inspire you to getthrough each day.

看部能激励你的好片

Movies are great because they allow you toescape from your current struggles and invest yourself in other characters andtheir storylines. Many also offer opportunities for self-reflection and can beboth uplifting and inspiring.

看片跟看书一样是种移情疗法，在这种圣诞气氛浓厚的夜晚，再刷一遍《真爱至上》吧。

Don’t be afraid to reach out to farawayfriends or family.

不要抵触朋友家庭聚会，尽管距离很远。

It’s so easy to feel like a burden on yourparents and best friends when you’re calling or texting them every day seekingout help. But remember that just being able to admit to and talk about yourstruggles is a huge accomplishment, and your loved ones will not resent you forthat.

一个人远赴多数是情侣拍档的聚会或家庭聚会真的会让人很尴尬，平时的消极情绪会让很多人止步不前甚至临时取消赴约，转而窝进自己温暖安全的小房间。其实这个时候我们往往需要多出去跟人沟通交流，融入到快乐的气氛中，你的小尴尬小心思马上就会烟消云散了。

最后，奉上卷福上周在英国国家写信日（National Letter Writing Day）给圣诞老人写的一封信。圣诞月本来就应该用红色驱走严寒，用爱把今年的尾巴和明年的开头都烘烤得暖暖的。

他在手写信中写道：“我希望你能让孩子们更多地享受童年天真烂漫的时光，让魔法和欢笑的日子延长，让他们远离疯狂的现实世界，笑容灿烂、远离眼泪。”

  

Dear Father Christmas,

亲爱的圣诞老人：

So my friend has asked me to write to you... I have to confess it's been hard to know what to say. Mainly because like most adults I feel preposterous asking anything of you because our time with you is surely done. Now we get our own presents, control our own fates, take responsibility for our own actions, and live in the world we have created... so it's not for us to turn around and plead for your help with the environment, the migrant crisis, the NHS, education, food banks, human rights, fundamentalism and wars. Though God knows we need all the help we can get with all these man-made problems and more.

我的朋友叫我写信给你……我不得不承认实在很难知道该对你说什么。主要是因为像大部分成年人一样，我觉得对你要求点什么好像很荒谬，因为我们和你已经没有交集了。现在的我们自己给自己买礼物，掌握自己的命运，对自己的行为负责，并且生活在我们自己的创造的世界里面……所以我们没有理由找你帮忙来解决我们自己所造成的那些问题，比如环境问题、移民危机、NHS医保系统、教育、食物银行、人权、原教旨主义和战争。尽管天晓得，我们真的需要任何能得到的帮助来面对这些人造的危机和麻烦。

And it's not that you aren't compassionate and full of joy. You're great. In spite of you being changed into different colours for corporations and being bastardised to represent materialism gone mad - despite probably originating in some season based pagan druid ritual a million thought miles from requests for spontaneously combusting hoverboards... Kidadults cynically pointing this out after having their moment of belief in you are wasting everyone's precious time. Because you are not for them. You are for the children. Children who need some magic in a world where the borders between innocence and responsibility, playful imagination and cold, adult obstacles are continually shrinking.

并不是说你没有同情心或者没有充满欢乐。你很棒。尽管你被各种商业机构篡改得面貌全非，被妖魔化而代表了疯狂的拜金主义——简直像异教徒的仪式一般每到这个季节就要求礼物填满欲望，比如那种有可能突然就自燃了的悬滑板。那些童心未灭的****们冷笑着指出你是在浪费每个人的宝贵时间，却忘了他们自己也曾相信你。因为你不是他们的。你是孩子们的。那些孩子们需要你的魔力，因为在这个世界，天真与责任、充满乐趣的想象力与冰冷的****的障碍之间的界限正在不断的萎缩逝去。

This is what I'd like to ask you to help with. A little more time for children to be children. Stretch the moment of magic and playfulness. Distract them from the realities of a world gone mad so that they can laugh with their breath rather than sob with their tears. Especially those caring for family members, or suffering illness, hunger or poverty. Especially those hiding in buildings as bombs rain down, or being handed shaking with fear or cold into a boat to escape environmental disaster or war. Please help to light up their worlds with a moment of joy and hope.

这才是我想请求你帮助的。让孩子们有更多的时间只做孩子吧。延伸这魔力与乐趣的时间。让他们不去关注这疯狂的真实世界，让他们可以欢笑而不是流泪。尤其是那些不得不照顾家庭的、身患疾病的、受饿受穷的孩子们。尤其是那些藏身在位于爆炸雨里的建筑中、或不得不又冻又怕的颤抖着被塞进船里才能逃出灾难和战争环境中的孩子们。请你照亮他们的世界，给他们一丝希望和欢乐。

When I think about it you've got it tough this year... And when I really think about it I'm not sure that asking you for a lightsaber and getting one (not that I ever did by the way) is equatable with controlling the space time continuum and making the good of childhood last a little longer.

当我想到今年你的处境艰难的时候……当我仔细思考，我不能确定找你要一把星球大战里面的光剑并且真的得到它（额，并不曾得到过）能胜过控制时空介质而令美好的童年再多停留一阵子。

But you do inspire wonder and awe amongst those that write you letters and go to sleep hoping there might be a new object in their possession come dawn. You inspire good behaviour and, at least in my memory, some desperate last minute attempts to redeem bad behaviour so as not to be overlooked. Spare a thought too for those millions who want to write to you but through illiteracy can't. Hear their words and help to give them the time and chance to learn how to read and write so they can better their lives and escape their impoverished beginnings.

但对于那些真的给你写信、憧憬着你会在天明前给他们放好礼物而入睡的孩子们，你带来了好奇和敬畏。你激发了善行，并且至少在记忆里，孩子们在最后一分钟试图弥补做错的事情并希望不会因为做错事而被你惩罚。还希望你要照顾一下上百万的不能读写的人们，他们想要给你写信却不行。倾听他们的声音，给他们时间和机会学习读和写，这样他们就可以过上更好的生活，逃离贫困的处境。

I feel a little sorry for you. And I guess I've done exactly what I said I wouldn't... Asked you to help with adult problems and solve some of the greatest worries we have for our children. I promise to leave some extra port and mince pies for you!

我现在对你感到抱歉了。我好像刚刚做了我明明说了我不会做的事。。。我希望你能帮忙解决****制造的麻烦，缓解我们对我们的孩子最大的担忧。我保证你，我会给你留超多的肉馅饼的！！